Every Sunday my family gets together for Sunday dinner (not sure why we call it dinner, it’s really after church lunch). So, for Mother’s Day my cousins and I always cook for the mothers. Generally, I’m in charge of desserts so throughout the week I was prepping (in my head) what I would bake. My family is simple so a pound cake would suffice but I like to mix it up every now and again since my mother loves chocolate and we now have a vegan in the family. To ensure everyone was accounted for I decided to bake a coconut cream pound cake, vegan chocolate cake from scratch and a pan of peach cobbler. I made a Krogers run and started prepping Saturday night about 11pm. I had all my ingredients and I just knew these desserts were about to smash! Because I’ve never made vegan desserts before I decided to start with that first. Around 2am I was whipping up the ingredients in my mixer when my mixer started blowing smoke. I coughed, turned it off and unplugged it immediately. Now, this mixer is the very first mixer my mother gave me when I started baking over 15 years ago so it has some sentimental value behind it. I hadn’t used my mixer in a while so maybe the dust particles needed to be blown off, I let it cool off and started mixing by hand. After a few minutes I plugged it back in, turned it on and waited.. nothing. I put it back in the box and tossed it in the trash. Because I wanted to ensure my cake was moist, I wasn’t confident mixing without a mixer. My neighbors weren’t home and I didn’t want to text anyone with it being so late so I started mixing by hand and changed the recipe to vegan cookies. Once I finished the cookies, I cleaned up the kitchen and called it a night. Side note- Vegan butter is not cheap!
After a few hours of sleeping, I woke up and started preparing my peach cobbler. I took a stab at baking a peach cobbler several years ago and when it tasted NOTHING like Big Mama’s, I let it rest. I decided to give it another try and it turned out really good. The family loved it! I 86’d the pound cake because I didn’t have a mixer and didn’t have time to go buy one, bake it and be at church with my momz by the time it started so I found a Mexican bakery that did homemade cakes. The cake was all chocolate with a coffee taste inside- Momz is a coffee drinker so that was perfect.
I was late getting to church but I made it just in time to enjoy the rest of the service with momz and see her smile. It was nice. Mother’s Day turned out to be better than I expected. Although our relationship is not where I’d like it to be, I’m going to keep trying because in reality, she won’t be here forever so I have to put pride aside and cherish those moments while I have the chance. We had a great time with family, all the mother’s enjoyed themselves and it was simply a beautiful day.
Happy Mother’s Day to all! -Corrita
Mother’s Day is not a favorite “holiday” of mine. Never has been. I was blessed to be adopted as a baby and had a life well-provided for but my relationships with my mothers (adoptive and bio) have not been the best. If you truly know me and we’ve had conversations on a deeper level, it’s no secret. It’s an area in my life that has always been strained, strange to discuss and hard to overcome from a pre-teen to now. I’m surrounded by sooo many women: sisters, Aunts, my Grandmother, God-Mother, co-workers and friends whom I look up to but it’s absolutely nothing like having a mother/daughter relationship. Yearned for but never had.
With the help of a friend, a few months ago I got into therapy to address those dark areas in my life. As I did my homework things started looking up. In the AA community, therapy isn’t always a go-to solution. For years I’ve always heard “just pray about it”. I do and I have prayed but sometimes a fix is needed on a deeper level. At first I was a bit ashamed about it but when I sat and thought, you shouldn’t be ashamed of something that will help you grow. I too want to be a therapist at some point and I need to understand from the client’s perspective what it’s like sitting on the other side of the couch spilling your words on sensitive subjects.
I was invited and asked to do a poem at a Mother’s Day breakfast last week. As I was writing and gathering my thoughts I didn’t only want to talk about the beautiful things or happy times of Mother’s Day because that’s not everyone’s experience. A lot of women find that day hard for a number of reasons, including myself. By the end, it was not only therapeutic for me but helpful for other women as well. Saying that to say, never Judge a person’s story if the day isn’t all about happy feelings, flowers and champagne. You never know another’s person’s walk. Today has not been a good day, at all. I’ve been in the house and to myself but I have to do some baking and will find the strength to attend church with my mother tomorrow so tomorrow will be a better day. –Corrita 💛
After listening and reading many posts on social media, I finally had the opportunity to watch the RTT interview and formulate my own opinion on the discussion regarding Ayesha’s 2-second comment about not getting the same attention from males. The show included Mama Curry, Ayesha Curry (wife to Steph), Baby Sister Curry, Sydel (Steph’s younger sister who is married to an NBA star) and newly-engaged Mrs. Curry-To-Be, Callie (Seth’s fiance- the younger brother to Steph and also daughter to LA Clippers head coach, Doc Rivers). Also included were the hosts- Jada, her mom and daughter, Willow.
The show was taped in the North Carolina home of Mama Curry and started with Mama Curry discussing what it was like meeting her husband of 30-years at the age of 18, the bumpy roads and how they’ve progressed over the years. Ayesha discusses not losing your self as a woman and still having your own without getting lost in the shadows of her husband. Sydel has been married for about 6 months and became emotional over discussing how she sees her husband about once every 2 weeks and those hardships. Callie discusses how her engagement went and being excited to be a wife enjoined into the Curry crew.
Jada then asks the ladies how they handle other ladies (aka groupies) being around their men. Mama Curry says she actually likes it when ladies are attracted to her man, as long as they know he’s HER man! Ayesha says Steph is naturally nice by nature but she doesn’t like to be put in a position where she feels in competition with other women. She specified it’s not him, it’s always the other women and he oftentimes doesn’t see it coming. Ayesha says it’s given her a sense of insecurity but for the past 10 years she has 0 male attention and felt something was wrong with her. Immediately, all the ladies chimed in saying she doesn’t get the outside attention because she’s not looking while Jada added it could get real dangerous insinuating if she were looking. Majority of the ladies seem to deal with a great deal of anxiety being in the public eye or being around a large mass of people and discussed ways they over come it, whether through medication or soothing techniques. The ladies briefly discussed race, being told they’re not black enough or struggles growing up while being from a small town.
To discuss the meat and potatoes of the entire topic, in my opinion regarding Ayesha’s comment, I definitely think people overreacted and made her comment more than what she made it out to be. I absolutely seen nothing wrong with what she said as she was simply being open, honest and expressing herself on the experiences she has vs. her husband. As I was explaining to a few of my girlfriends, Ayesha is respected by a lot of people (men and women) and she carries herself in such a lady-like way that you can’t depict many flaws within her so the one time she makes a comment that some may not agree with, people will twist and dissect it into what they want to believe. Little girls, young adults and women LOVE getting dolled up and told they’re beautiful- be it your partner, co-worker, family member or friend- it’s a confidence booster. Not to be confused with not having self-confidence, but it’s nice being noticed and acknowledged by someone of the same or opposite sex. Now add Ayesha who’s constantly on TV and in the public eye, she’s constantly up against society’s pressure. Going back to RTT, I agree with Jada’s comment that there are men who are waiting on Steph to screw up but they don’t make a move on Ayesha because they know it’s a waste of energy, she’s not looking for it and will probably easily shut them down. On the contrary, what Ayesha may not realize is some of these men out here are full of sh*t, d*ck and lies. The way her life is portrayed seems like she has it all, she’s stress-free and there’s nothing in these streets worth risking it for. Just recently, Steph came out with a message praising his wife for not being afraid to speak her truth. The couple seems happy and Ayesha will become stronger from this moment.
This was my first time watching RTT and I was pretty surprised the show was less than 30 minutes. It was sooo good, I just wanted it to be longer! Some areas seemed edited and there was a segment at the end where Jada pulled out a fish bowl and each lady pulled a question but Ayesha was the only one to answer her question. I would’ve loved to know each question, hear each response and get a grander insight to each of the ladies’ personality. Nonetheless, the show was great to watch and I look forward to watching many more episodes of RTT.