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DJ Khaled’s ‘Father of Asahd’ album review

“One spliff a day ah keep the evil away

Lord. One spliff a day ah keep the evil away ah

… It’s a holy mountain”

🎧 The album starts with an island jam as Buju Banton headlines the track along with 3 other island artists as they get straight to work on the track #HolyMountain. The first minute of the song starts with a thundering sound until DJ Khaled applauds himself on “another one” and drops the head-bopping beat. The remainder of the song is full of catchy lyrical content as they rap and rhyme about receiving blessings after being tested. If nothing else, enjoy the beat! Sick!

🎧 21 Savage hops on the track #WishWish alongside Cardi B. She’s always giving advice to the ladies whether it’s from the streets or the bedroom as she kindly tells us, “whatever you do, sis, keep it cute, sis. Leave that beefin’ sh*t at Ruth Chris or end up toothless”. From the jump of the song,Β  you can tell it’s another banger!

🎧 #Jealous is a song about outsiders giving their opinion or worrying about the relationship of you and your partner. It’s a happy-go-lucky song as Chris Brown starts it off. Lil Wayne throws jabs through his flow saying “she posts a pic of me and her from off her iPad, you know them hoes don’t like that where the likes at? Jealousy is a disease you can die mad.” According to CB, if you’re jealous you just need some love in your life.

🎧 #JustUs is a recognizable beat remade from Outkasts’ “Ms. Jackson”. The song is about a couple who’s in their own lane and happily doing them. Sza did a good job bringing a different hook to this classic. When the smoke clears and you’re still standing for each other 10 toes down, it’s proof “all we got is what we got, it’s our way it’s never them”.

🎧 #YouStay is a collab featuring Meek Mill, Jeremih as he brings the mellow vibes, J. Balvin and Lil Baby. The song starts off in Spanish then the artists claim their spots telling why their significant other chooses to stay and cry every night when she isn’t treated the best. He basically feels like his woman/partner is too loyal. Us ladies have all had a relatable experience on why we stay past our dismissal date but that’s a whole story for another day..

🎧 Next up comes Travis Scott talking about being able to #Celebrate with the loved ones and lost ones. Post Malone comes through flowing in the vocals to match Travis Scott’s futuristic mix between autotune and deep vocal raps. The song has an emotional feel to it because we’ve all celebrated in some way or another and remembered those loved ones who’ve either transitioned on or aren’t in our lives anymore. The song has a touching feel to it, yet, makes you feel accomplished as DJ Khaled comes in towards the end stating as we continue to celebrate life, it’s always love. In this moment it’s all about happy feels, good vibes and pursuing forward. I can hear this song being jammed at graduations, pool parties, a repass or a casual drive down the highway.

🎧 Lucky song #7 comes in with a church choir type feel as John Legend hums, his octaves increase and he sings “You keep taking me #Higher and Higher, but don’t you know that the devil is a liar”. In the first 13 seconds of the song I feel like he’s literally taking us to a place we’re all seeking to go- heaven! With the different melodies and percussions, you automatically think church organ on Sunday before Sis. Judy cries. As the beat drops, your foot starts tapping, head bobbing and you instantly catch on to the vibe. Legend gives us a quick 4-second snippet of what you’ll feel lyrically as the song plays “They rather see me down but my soul’s in the fire”. Our beloved Nipsey Hussle comes in with raps about the his Grandmother’s miscarriage struggles, how his father came from Africa to LA, met his mom and displays how proud he is of their accomplishments. Similar to the “Los Angeles love kinda like Hussle and Boog”, as Nip shouts out the nickname of his soulmate and LA love- Lauren London. Legend comes back in with more power and emphasis on the lyrics he sings. Nip comes back in with more rap tunes as DJ Khaled hypes him up for round 2. “Emptied out the clip it was broad day, f*ck niggas always gotta learn the hard way”- in this moment I knew the song became way too real. Nip always seemed to be very knowledgeable, ahead of his time and “woke” to bad/suspicious vibes. Nip was shot and killed a few months ago in this manner. And the outrage of the public couldn’t fathom why the killer would do such a thing. The public speculated their own philosophies, beliefs and illuminatic reasons for how and why Nip was killed but that one realistic sentence in itself makes you wonder… Legend ends it testifying in his own melodic way as the song comes to a close. This is the strongest I’ve ever heard Legend belt out those notes and I felt every.single.word. This song is powerful, brilliant and scarily real on so many levels! Definitely a song that’s been on repeat.

🎧 #WontTakeMySoul is rapped by Nas as Ceelo Green uses his lower register to serenade the hook. Nas’ authenticity on this track mixed with Ceelo’s vocals resembles a Sam Cooke sound similar to his hit “A Change Is Gonna Come” and how much depth and emotion the song gives. This song has an old school feel and makes you pause for a second to think. “You don’t know where I came from, I can’t go back, no, I can’t run, I won’t do that for nobody.”

🎧 Meek Mill and Lil Baby team up on #WeatherTheStorm. In the 2.5 minutes the song plays, it’s no chorus or catchy hooks but the song is still nice and makes you want to hear more.

🎧 Another banger comes in from the legends, Jeezy and Rozay shouting out money and all things #BigBoyTalk.

🎧 Lil Wayne hops on a more up tempo remake of Jodeci’s ‘ #FreakNYou ‘ with Gunna.

🎧 #TopOff is the first single off the album which dropped sometime last year featuring Jay-Z, Beyonce and Future. Future adds hypeness to the track while Jay spits hot fire on his verses before he brings in his queen. Bey’s rap on this song is one of the best! She’s also a queen at throwing subtle shade when she sounds off on the verses, “I’m the only lady here, still the realest n*gga in the room. I break the internet, top two and I ain’t number two. My body, my ice, my cash, all real, I’m a triple threat..” Dope song and definitely a summer banger for 2019.

🎧 #NoBrainer is a song designated for Justin Bieber’s sound. To spice it up Quavo added a few verses. In a world full of hoes, as Chance the Rapper raps, it’s a no brainer choosing his current mate over someone else.

🎧 Big Sean comes through again on #ThankYou as he raps his praises of thanks to not only DJ Khaled (who helped put him on) but also his Grandmother, family and anyone who’s contributed to his wins and losses, even his “Thank You, Next” ex-girlfriend, Ariana Grande.

🎧 And lastly, Buju Banton gives us a reggae beat and takes us home with the chorus, hook and verses as he sings about marching on on the track #HolyGround.

Overall, I really enjoyed the album and it’s definitely one I can listen to from start to finish. Each artist was able to shine in their own way while DJ Khaled ensured each track created variety for the artist while making sure it was still a banger.

This is my first album review so feel free to leave a comment letting me know what you thought about the review, if you’ve heard the F.O.A. album and liked/disliked it or if you have no clue who most of these artists are. Lol. All responses are welcome. Thanks for reading along. — Corrita πŸ’›

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Take Care Of Yourself

I posted this photo on my IG a while back and recently on my site for the May Photo Challenge. When I came across this picture I immediately felt this pic was talking to me. As of December ’18, I’ve been with my job for 10 years now and have been in management for 2. It’s been ups and downs and everyday is a challenge but I love the aspect of protecting the unprotected and helping where I can.

For someone like myself who doesn’t stress, I can admit one month was pretty rough and I had never felt so low, tired, drained and ‘over all this sh*t’ in my life! It was so bad I almost felt like I was going through a depressive stage. During this time, one Tuesday a staff called me to discuss a case and out the blue she asked if I was ok. I said “yeah, I’m fine” with a fake smirk through the phone. She said you just seem sad. I responded, “I do?” At that moment I knew it wasn’t ok and some changes needed to be made. I told her I was just tired, work has been a bit overwhelming and I think I was stressing a bit. I know, that’s not something you want to tell your staff but it was raw and the truth and honestly we’re all human. Here I am thinking I’m keeping it altogether for myself and my staff and I was having meltdowns in private. I always encourage my staff to take time off or take care of yourself because if we aren’t in a good headspace we can’t be as effective to help others we council and work with on a daily. I was drowning. So, there I was not taking my own advice.

My bf knew how bad it was getting but I made excuses because I knew how much the work still needed to be done. I would go to the office and work all day, get home and work, fall asleep while working just to fall into the same routine day after day. Not only did I start neglecting myself, I was neglecting him because it became all about work. He encouraged me to take some days off so I could get away and we’d take a mini vacay. Say what?! I’m all in.

In honor of mental health month, I encourage you to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! Take care of your body and mind because you only get one. As the picture describes, I had to tell myself if I left this job today they would mourn for 2 minutes, clean my desk and set it in the lap of the next person. Harsh, but it’s truth. The mini vacay couldn’t have come at a better time and put a lot of things in perspective for me. I HAD TO get back taking care of me: Exercising regularly, doing yoga, getting massages, eating right, drinking more than a half bottle of water (lol), spending more time with family & friends, journaling and applying myself to become stronger spiritually and mentally. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in work, looking perfect or comfort zones but if you don’t take care of you, you’ll be 35 years young with high blood pressure, gray hair and a bitter spirit. I’m just happy to say that today I’m in a much better space. Things aren’t perfect but they’re much better than my yesterday. Take care of you and encourage someone else to do the same, you’ll start seeing the benefits and will be glad you did. Until next time.. –Corrita πŸ’›
Posted in Foodie Gal, Live~Laugh~Life, The Psychoanalysis of Tom and Tina

Mother’s Day

Every Sunday my family gets together for Sunday dinner (not sure why we call it dinner, it’s really after church lunch). So, for Mother’s Day my cousins and I always cook for the mothers. Generally, I’m in charge of desserts so throughout the week I was prepping (in my head) what I would bake. My family is simple so a pound cake would suffice but I like to mix it up every now and again since my mother loves chocolate and we now have a vegan in the family. To ensure everyone was accounted for I decided to bake a coconut cream pound cake, vegan chocolate cake from scratch and a pan of peach cobbler. I made a Krogers run and started prepping Saturday night about 11pm. I had all my ingredients and I just knew these desserts were about to smash! Because I’ve never made vegan desserts before I decided to start with that first. Around 2am I was whipping up the ingredients in my mixer when my mixer started blowing smoke. I coughed, turned it off and unplugged it immediately. Now, this mixer is the very first mixer my mother gave me when I started baking over 15 years ago so it has some sentimentalΒ value behind it. I hadn’t used my mixer in a while so maybe the dust particles needed to be blown off, I let it cool off and started mixing by hand. After a few minutes I plugged it back in, turned it on and waited.. nothing. I put it back in the box and tossed it in the trash. Because I wanted to ensure my cake was moist, I wasn’t confident mixing without a mixer. My neighbors weren’t home and I didn’t want to text anyone with it being so late so I started mixing by hand and changed the recipe to vegan cookies. Once I finished the cookies, I cleaned up the kitchen and called it a night. Side note- Vegan butter is not cheap!

After a few hours of sleeping, I woke up and started preparing my peachΒ cobbler. I took a stab at baking a peach cobbler several years ago and when it tasted NOTHING like Big Mama’s, I let it rest. I decided to give it another try and it turned out really good. The family loved it! I 86’d the pound cake because I didn’t have a mixer and didn’t have time to go buy one, bake it and be at church with my momz by the time it started so I found a Mexican bakery that did homemade cakes. The cake was all chocolate with a coffee taste inside- Momz is a coffee drinker so that was perfect.

I was late getting to church but I made it just in time to enjoy the rest of the service with momz and see her smile. It was nice. Mother’s Day turned out to be better than I expected. Although our relationship is not where I’d like it to be, I’m going to keep trying because in reality, she won’t be here forever so I have to put pride aside and cherish those moments while I have the chance. We had a great time with family, all the mother’s enjoyed themselves and it was simply a beautiful day.

Happy Mother’s Day to all! -Corrita

Posted in Live~Laugh~Life, The Psychoanalysis of Tom and Tina

Mother’s Day Eve πŸ₯€

Mother’s Day is not a favorite “holiday” of mine. Never has been. I was blessed to be adopted as a baby and had a life well-provided for but my relationships with my mothers (adoptive and bio) have not been the best. If you truly know me and we’ve had conversations on a deeper level, it’s no secret. It’s an area in my life that has always been strained, strange to discuss and hard to overcome from a pre-teen to now. I’m surrounded by sooo many women: sisters, Aunts, my Grandmother, God-Mother, co-workers and friends whom I look up to but it’s absolutely nothing like having a mother/daughter relationship. Yearned for but never had.

With the help of a friend, a few months ago I got into therapy to address those dark areas in my life. As I did my homework things started looking up. In the AA community, therapy isn’t always a go-to solution. For years I’ve always heard “just pray about it”. I do and I have prayed but sometimes a fix is needed on a deeper level. At first I was a bit ashamed about it but when I sat and thought, you shouldn’t be ashamed of something that will help you grow. I too want to be a therapist at some point and I need to understand from the client’s perspective what it’s like sitting on the other side of the couch spilling your words on sensitive subjects.

I was invited and asked to do a poem at a Mother’s Day breakfast last week. As I was writing and gathering my thoughts I didn’t only want to talk about the beautiful things or happy times of Mother’s Day because that’s not everyone’s experience. A lot of women find that day hard for a number of reasons, including myself. By the end, it was not only therapeutic for me but helpful for other women as well. Saying that to say, never Judge a person’s story if the day isn’t all about happy feelings, flowers and champagne. You never know another’s person’s walk. Today has not been a good day, at all. I’ve been in the house and to myself but I have to do some baking and will find the strength to attend church with my mother tomorrow so tomorrow will be a better day. –Corrita πŸ’›

Posted in The Psychoanalysis of Tom and Tina

Red Table Talk feat. The Curry’s

After listening and reading many posts on social media, I finally had the opportunity to watch the RTT interview and formulate my own opinion on the discussion regarding Ayesha’s 2-second comment about not getting the same attention from males. The show included Mama Curry, Ayesha Curry (wife to Steph), Baby Sister Curry, Sydel (Steph’s younger sister who is married to an NBA star) and newly-engaged Mrs. Curry-To-Be, Callie (Seth’s fiance- the younger brother to Steph and also daughter to LA Clippers head coach, Doc Rivers). Also included were the hosts- Jada, her mom and daughter, Willow.

The show was taped in the North Carolina home of Mama Curry and started with Mama Curry discussing what it was like meeting her husband of 30-years at the age of 18, the bumpy roads and how they’ve progressed over the years. Ayesha discusses not losing your self as a woman and still having your own without getting lost in the shadows of her husband. Sydel has been married for about 6 months and became emotional over discussing how she sees her husband about once every 2 weeks and those hardships. Callie discusses how her engagement went and being excited to be a wife enjoined into the Curry crew.

Jada then asks the ladies how they handle other ladies (aka groupies) being around their men. Mama Curry says she actually likes it when ladies are attracted to her man, as long as they know he’s HER man! Ayesha says Steph is naturally nice by nature but she doesn’t like to be put in a position where she feels in competition with other women. She specified it’s not him, it’s always the other women and he oftentimes doesn’t see it coming. Ayesha says it’s given her a sense of insecurity but for the past 10 years she has 0 male attention and felt something was wrong with her. Immediately, all the ladies chimed in saying she doesn’t get the outside attention because she’s not looking while Jada added it could get real dangerous insinuating if she were looking. Majority of the ladies seem to deal with a great deal of anxiety being in the public eye or being around a large mass of people and discussed ways they over come it, whether through medication or soothing techniques. The ladies briefly discussed race, being told they’re not black enough or struggles growing up while being from a small town.

To discuss the meat and potatoes of the entire topic, in my opinion regarding Ayesha’s comment, I definitely think people overreacted and made her comment more than what she made it out to be. I absolutely seen nothing wrong with what she said as she was simply being open, honest and expressing herself on the experiences she has vs. her husband. As I was explaining to a few of my girlfriends, Ayesha is respected by a lot of people (men and women) and she carries herself in such a lady-like way that you can’t depict many flaws within her so the one time she makes a comment that some may not agree with, people will twist and dissect it into what they want to believe. Little girls, young adults and women LOVE getting dolled up and told they’re beautiful- be it your partner, co-worker, family member or friend- it’s a confidence booster. Not to be confused with not having self-confidence, but it’s nice being noticed and acknowledged by someone of the same or opposite sex. Now add Ayesha who’s constantly on TV and in the public eye, she’s constantly up against society’s pressure. Going back to RTT, I agree with Jada’s comment that there are men who are waiting on Steph to screw up but they don’t make a move on Ayesha because they know it’s a waste of energy, she’s not looking for it and will probably easily shut them down. On the contrary, what Ayesha may not realize is some of these men out here are full of sh*t, d*ck and lies. The way her life is portrayed seems like she has it all, she’s stress-free and there’s nothing in these streets worth risking it for. Just recently, Steph came out with a message praising his wife for not being afraid to speak her truth. The couple seems happy and Ayesha will become stronger from this moment.

This was my first time watching RTT and I was pretty surprised the show was less than 30 minutes. It was sooo good, I just wanted it to be longer! Some areas seemed edited and there was a segment at the end where Jada pulled out a fish bowl and each lady pulled a question but Ayesha was the only one to answer her question. I would’ve loved to know each question, hear each response and get a grander insight to each of the ladies’ personality. Nonetheless, the show was great to watch and I look forward to watching many more episodes of RTT.