Sept Blog Challenge, part II
*Places I would like to visit one day– Bali, Italy, Kenya, Seattle, a nude beach, Kanye’s Sunday Service.
*Highs + Lows of the past year– Whew Lord, this one is a tear-jerker as so much has happened in my personal life. One of the lows has been a few relationships that’s deteriorated from my bio mom, close cousin & my ex.
All have tugged on my heart in different ways but I try to find the positive as well as the lesson. I seen a meme on Instagram posted by a wave of men that read “Never heard a female say, I had a good man but f*cked up.. Y’all never do nothing wrong huh? 🤔” It was meant to be funny but held a lot of truth to it. It would be selfish if I only painted my ex’s flaws and made no mention of my own. No matter how much you like/love a person you have to love yourself more and address those toxic areas before intertwining lives. Overtime I had to let my ego go, remove self from the equation and put myself in his shoes to understand his pain and feelings. Great guy.. & handsome.. but the timing didn’t align this time around. Nonetheless, during our many conversations he’s instilled in me the importance of speaking your truth, keeping a clear mind and continuously aiming to be the best version of YOU. 💋
Another low has been witnessing health scares with the parentals. I’m generally in my own world floating like a butterfly but having BOTH parentals in the hospital was a scare & opened up my eyes in a different way. We oftentimes take health for granted and the luxury of maneuvering with no worries but once that’s stripped from you, it can be hard for one to accept. The past month has shown me I not only want to ensure I’m living a healthy life, engaging in therapy, eating right, exercising and taking my vitamins but also that I’m leading by example to make the path easier to follow.
High’s– …In spite of all the sad & lonely nights, the days I want to be to myself with my music on a beach or morning’s I’d rather stay in bed and write than look at another work email, I’m still grateful. Work has become a better environment, spiritually I’m learning and grasping the challenges and each day is a push closer to my dream! 😊
*5 celebrities I find attractive + why So, I’ve never really salivated over a celebrity but good eye candy is always intriguing to see. From my years working as a bartender I’ve seen almost every musical celebrity play on stage. Afterall, they’re people just like the rest, just a few more coins & private jets. A few traits I find attractive is a man who can cook, pray, take care of home and handle his business. Here are my top 5 celebs & what’s drawn me 2 them..
#5- R. Kelly- Don’t knock me, here me out. 🙅🏽♀️ Certain songs leave special memories and R. Kelly was no different. During his 2016 ‘The Buffet’ tour he performed in Houston and I was working at a bar near his exiting stage. I cringed I didn’t pay for a ticket since I’d never seen him live before but the way he finished the show in costume and stared me down after the show is a visual I’d never forget. 😍 Going off looks and musical talent alone, the man is legendary and his songs will forever be classics. No bail money from me though.
#4- Rihanna– Ms. Rih Rih is one drop dead gorgeous chick! She was performing during her ‘Anti World Tour’ and I was working at the same bar as Kelz. The way the bar area is set-up, it’s on the floor level away from the main stage, includes one of the VIP bars, TVs, lounges and 2 set of restrooms. About 30 minutes before time for her to take the stage, we received word from management that all customers must be finished at the bar and bathrooms must cleared. As for employees, we were not to talk to the artist, ask questions or have our cell phones out under no circumstances otherwise it will result in termination. This wasn’t the first we’d heard of something like this with artists who come through so we were prepared to just look, smile & capture the moment through our memory. Before she walked in was her entourage who escorted her. Then in came Rih Rih and shut the room down!
Silent stares as we all took in her beauty. Wearing a gray, one-piece shorts set, beige belt matching thigh high boots that snapped on to her waist and a matching ankle length coat. She looked towards the bar as she continued to smile and joke with her crew. She was much taller than I expected & her energy was radiating! One lady carried a big purse with all her essentials, another lady finalized the loose hairs with her comb, 2 others were there and kept her hype. Her eyes gazed the room all while she’s still smiling, hype and calm at the same time. If she was nervous I couldn’t tell! Once they played her entrance song, I’m guessing that was her ’30 second’ cue. She took a shot of Patron (like a G), her team did one last body scan and she vibed her way the stage opening, grabbed the mic, belted a sound and in no time the audience screamed in excitement. What a moment! The way her team keeps her grounded throughout all these years is rare yet beautiful.
#3- T.P.- Mr. Tyler Perry stole our hearts through laughter in his plays, movies, TV shows, real life church segments and motivational speeches whether through his character, Madea, or giving a eulogy. He’s a businessman who never forgot his roots and has made a name for himself in Hollywood. T.P. models how to turn a test into a testimony. He’s gifted, anointed, full of knowledge with great lessons and I could listen to him talk all day. His accomplishments are a testament to the African American community and I hope to tour his studio the next time I’m in Atlanta.
#2- Morris Chestnut– Every movie he stars in is a showstopper. From his chocolate hues, brown eyes and perfectly framed bod, he’s at the top of the eye candy list, respectively. 🍫🍭
#1- Tyrese– Tyrese used to be a crush back when. Learning of him through coca cola commercials then growing to lust over him because of his chocolate skin, vocal cords & song #12 on his album.
*How would I spend $1,000,000-
The opposite of the kid from Home Alone! Lol. You wouldn’t hear a peep from me to even know I had 1mil. Invest, save, stash, tithes then hop on a plane to the beach.
*My earliest childhood memories– Earliest? I guess being pushed out my mama’s vj. 🤷🏽♀️ Most memorable:
-Easter speeches and Christmas plays from New Testament, Agape PC to Mt. Rose. Then, changing into our pastel-colored Easter fits after church before we ran and played
-Buddy Ace cassette tapes
-GAP at Harlem and the fieldtrips
-Always having a pet in the house (rabbit, multiple dogs- momz) or always having a pet to eat (deer, hog head cheese, squirrel- daddy)
-Wilson family road trip 2 Milwaukee in my mama’s red Lincoln Towncar.
-The cool cup lady with all the snacks for .25
-Nintendo and my pink Barbie House
-Riding my bike around Kings Colony with neighborhood friends
-Knocking on people’s houses and running, tearing up the mail, putting water or toothpaste in they bed when somebody made me mad
-Jammin KWWJ, Gospel 1360 every morning with Letitia Jackson and afternoons with Skipper Lee
-Sunday school and church EVERY Sunday followed by family meals at Big Mama’s. Rice & gravy with a piece of chicken, a spoon of corn and a slice of unsweet cornbread became one of the norms and she never ran out of food no matter who was being fed. Those were a fav. Always special seeing the tradition being continued..
Until next week..